My boyfriend is amazing and other true stories
I found this meme on dooce the other day and felt compelled to do it. Because my boyfriend is worth gushing about, and I haven't written about him in too long.
What are your middle names?
Mine's Jean, his is David. Nothing terribly embarrassing there – in fact, I was pushing to name our business David Jean Design at one point, but it became one in a list of rejected names.
How long have you been together?
One year, one month, and a couple of weeks. (and 3 days...I know, I know - aren't we gross?)
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Who asked whom out?
Hmmm...I was packing my belongings to move to California in January of 2008, and he said, “I want you to meet my friends when you get here.”
I said, “I'll be there Friday.”
He said, “This Friday?”
He called me back the next day and said, “My friends are having a beach party on Sunday, and I'm going to pick you up and take you there, and bring you back home when it's over.”
How old are each of you?
I'm 32, he's 38. Six glorious years apart.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
We don't see either younger brother enough, and it's a dead tie. His is in Colorado and mine in London. But I predict more visits in the future.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Work. Work and money. Oh yeah, and my effing divorce.
Did you go to the same school?
No, sir. I graduated from William Woods University in 1998 with a degree in Equestrian Science. He went to UCSB in California.
Are you from the same home town?
No....but my parents currently live about 15 minutes away from his aunt and uncle in Illinois. Both of our families are in Illinois, even though he grew up in Michigan and then California. I grew up in a suburb of Chicago.
Who is smarter?
He is, hands down, although he would beg to differ, and he means it. Love that. But really, all his friends always say, “Chewy (his nickname) knows everything.” And it's pretty much true.
Who is the most sensitive?
We are both terribly sensitive people. I'm really not used to being with someone sensitive at all, so it's been an adjustment. I have to take care of him when he's hurting, which I love, but he takes care of me when I'm hurting. It's the best.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
We really don't. We both cook really good food all the time, so we're a bit elitist on the whole restaurant thing. Why pay all that extra $ when we could cook something far better at home?
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Puerto Vallarta. My first trip to Mexico.
Who has the craziest exes?
I only have one ex, unless you count high school, and he's not crazy, just annoying. I've heard a little about Eric's exes, but they don't seem crazy, just long gone.
Who has the worst temper?
I would have to say him, he's big into swearing when things don't work right on the computer. For instance:
BF: "Aaaahh - fucking hell."
BF: "Yeah, baby?"
Me: "When we have kids, you're going to have to refrain from saying things like that."
BF: "Oh, it's okay, baby, 'cause she's going to be a sailor – it'll be perfect."
Me: "You never know, he might be a gay horse trainer…"
I, on the other hand, internalize really well. Lots of practice.
Who does the cooking?
We both. LOVE. TO. COOK. TOGETHER. One of our favorite activities. It usually involves a bottle of wine and banter in fake, foreign accents....
Who is the neat-freak?
Uh – that'd be me. There's a pile of mail on Eric's desk that really bothers me, but I refuse to open his mail for him. But I know he'll never open it unless I stand over him to help him focus. So I clean around it, and straighten it when it threatens to slide off the desk entirely. All of his belongings threaten to slide places. I have my work cut out for me.
Who is more stubborn?
Hmmm. We're both pretty stubborn, but in different ways. I once had a full-on meltdown because he suggested I coil my rope (horse) lunge line a different way. Pure stubbornness, leaving no room for logic, I huffed and nearly stamped my feet, saying I'd been “doing it that way for years”. He's a sailor for god's sake, he could probably show me a few things about rope. And coiling. So I can be stubborn about really silly stuff.
He can be immensely stubborn about things for a good reason – like our safety or taking care in making decisions. He's really hard-headed about getting ALL the facts prior to making decisions. And sometimes that's just not possible. Do you know how long he spent researching our SINGLE satellite internet option? We went to coffee shops for internet for a good 3 months. And update – it sucks, but Hughes Net is still our only option because of where we live.
Who hogs the bed?
I've been labeled a cover-stealer, but I don't think he's ever asked me to move over. I've had to wake him up a handful of times to let me back in the bed.
Who wakes up earlier?
Me, mostly. But sometimes I'm awakened with kisses and hair ruffling. It's my favorite way to wake up.
Where was your first date?
Group date: At his friend's beach house party in Ventura.
Real first date: I invited him over for lunch, we went on a hike in the Santa Ynez mountains. He stayed for a week.
Who is more jealous?
We're not jealous people. At all.
How long did it take to get serious?
Despite our best efforts with regards to my divorce and taking it slow in the beginning of our relationship, logic was no match for what happened. Our second date was seven days long. We went to Mexico on our fifth date. And moved in together on our eighth date. It was there we stopped counting...
Who eats more?
I think he may eat a little bit more, but that's only because I'm exerting so much energy restraining myself.
Who does the laundry?
We both do. I never realized how terrible I was at laundry until I met him – I was the only option in my previous relationship. He's pretty finicky with all the pre-treating and soap measuring, and load sizing and water temperature. This may have something to do with his parents owning a dry cleaning business at one time... But he NEVER puts anything away. Okay, sometimes he folds my underpants and puts them away.
Who's better with the computer?
Really? Do we need to explain this? Okay, he's been using Linux for over 10 years. He designs databases and writes computer programs. Up until 6 months ago, I was running bloated Windows Vista on an HP Entertainment Pavillion WIDESCREEN. (It was really shiny.) The learning curve is STEEP.
Who drives when you are together?
See above. Well, I guess people who don't know me should know that I'm not a good driver. It's really hard for me to pay attention to things I don't like doing. And stop signs have been known to render themselves invisible in my presence. That bothers Eric a lot. So he drives.