I've lost five friends to cancer in as many months. As heavy as that may be, I have written a (thankfully, brief!) reminder poem to help my friends and I through this time.
It's easy to be overwhelmed,
but remember, dear friends,
there is another approach,
and I like to think it is the one
they would choose for us.
To celebrate a life
as we mourn a death.
To be grateful for the time we had
instead of regretting what we cannot change.
To smile as we remember a gift
instead of saddened by a loss.
To keep the memories;
lose the anger, guilt.
To carry on in honor of our friends,
inspired by lives well-lived.
To imagine them proudly smiling upon us
as we rejoice in what lies ahead - life.
Their joie de vivre lifts our hearts,
lightens our spirits,
even if their physical presence is no longer with us.
Cancer may have brought us together,
but joy, love, and laughter made us friends.